New Year’s Resolutions! Resolutions or a sure trap?

2013 Goals I don’t know about you, but when I see that my belly tightens up in seconds. Maybe as a memory of all the resolutions unachieved…

With every new year we feel an internal rush. A rush to reach for our dreams, to reach for something new that we have felt called to explore and accomplish – start a new project, learn a new skill, travel, save money, change ourselves…
We use this time as a chance for us to change what we dislike about ourselves and our habits. To stop our addictions to tabacco, alcohol, food or sweets, TV, sex, illegal drugs and to work on improving ourselves and our relationships.
We strive with excitement, hope, filled with positive intentions and new dreams. Each resolution a beautiful and honorable calling. It can be felt in the air, in the streets. We can breathe it and share it will all.

So why is it that we feel pressured by them and that most of us “fail” to maintain these personal agreements?

We are filled and surrounded by multi-dimensional addictions! We are emotionally and physically entrapped in specific types of relationships and behaviors that we are not even aware of.
Every year at this time we get our head out of “the bucket” filled with hope. As a scared child, on the following day, we look around and the world quickly becomes uncomfortable, unknown and unsafe. What do you think happens next? We go right back into “the bucket”.
It may be uncomfortable down there but at least it is safe, we know every inch of it.
Since childhood we have learned to become comfortable with failure, we know every inch of it, but we have not been taught to be comfortable with success and the unknown that comes with it. As Marianne Williamson suggests, success is our biggest fear.

These behaviors are the resultant of a driving force, a wound. A wound, the result of a story.

Our story and the story we tell ourselves is what keeps us entrapped in “the bucket”.
I will propose that the bucket is made of our individual story, our family and personal story starting with our birth. The latter is contained within a bigger story: the story of our civilization, the story of MAN.

Our healing, our resolutions is about these two stories, the individual and the collective. In other words, the “the bucket” is made of two wounds, the individual and the collective.

The collective story erected our society, a society with a skeleton of anxiety always needing us addicted in order to keep feeding itself. A society that itself is addicted.

Addiction and anxiety are resultants of the original wound of separation, they are symptoms of our dissociation from our natural origin and original birth rights.

We have left behind, with the cartesian dualism of separation, our union with Nature. Today MAN believes to be in control of Nature therefore separated from it.
As we have embraced this message we lost connection with one another, we have lost the love of the land, the love of life (not the life of our societal believes, but our life of origin), technology as replaced the need for each other. We feel alone and powerless. At a fast pace anxiety, fear, disconnection and loneliness creeped on us.

New Year's Resolution No wonder that a yoga class or a 21 day cleanse does not bring the answers we hope. No wonder that trying to save money to pay down our debt is unattainable. No wonder that being green with our use of plastic bottles does not make a difference when it comes to Earth preservation. The foundations, the collective wound, that we step on and believe to be true keep us entrapped. Alcohol, drugs, junk and processed foods surrounds us, technology is constantly fed to us, fear and rush is holding us by the neck… Nowhere a calm river, a field of peace where we can be cared for and care for others. It is up to us to create the latter, it cannot be given to us by an anxious society.

My intend is not to bring you down into darkness but to bring light to darkness, to offer another point of view that I hope highlights what is missing and why it is so hard to change.
I do not reject this time of separation, I believe it is part of our evolution. Thanks to it many discoveries and qualities have been brought to light.
I do however believe that it is necessary to re-orientate ourselves toward union, playfulness and care for our survival.

Nothing is wrong with us, but much is with what be believe.

The collective wound needs your attention. Our individual resolutions must include the collective.

Wake up!, Observe! Take a – caring – stand!

You are a stream, follow it…

Feel free to reach out if you have any questions or comments.
Guillaume Vincent

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